How to Ask for Help with Anything: The Producer Mindset

Knowing how to ask for help with anything seems impossible. For many It’s their own way or the highway.

To ask for help is a sign of weakness they will say. You must take the path alone and with no one else to guide you.

Upon hearing this I can understand why many would be put off. It is so rare that someone is actually able to brave the storm alone.

The inside seems familiar compared to the surrounding havoc . Why does it have to be this way though?

Do these people really think that going it alone means that you are unable to seek advice from others?

Human beings are social creatures. We have been and we always will be.

To build civilisations it was a requirement to be able to consistently interact with one another. Without this ability, we wouldn’t be where we are today.

If we had chose to ignore our fellow man then we would still be living in trees.

 

Lending a much needed hand

When you create your superhero and light your own path there will be troubling times. Leaving the masses isn’t easy.

That is why so few do it.  If there are so few then surely we should try and help those who decide to take the path less travelled?

The beauty in knowledge is that it can be passed on. After we are long gone our ideas and thoughts can still remain in one form or another.

We may be dead in physical form but in essence we live on. This is only possible through helping others.

Offering an outstretched hand doesn’t mean that you should offer it to everyone. No one is forcing you to and it is purely voluntary.

Only those who you deem deserving of being helped should be.

 

The ability to choose

We only have so much energy and resources available to us. Therefore we should be selective with who we decide to spend it on.

How does one decide who deserves to be helped? There is no one answer fits all here.

You must look at a persons value and potential. What are they offering you?

Do they possess something unique which sets them apart?  Are they even trying?

As they are young they may still be rugged.

Raw, untapped energy when focused can create amazing works.

That spark of potential that they may possess can be ignited no matter how small. Be on the look out for it.

If successful, the rewards can come back to you ten fold in the future.

Everyone needs someone to look up to. They can guide us and help us learn from their previous mistakes.

Their advice is invaluable and worth is immeasurable.

We then have those around us who we consider our equals somewhat.

Our equals challenge us to better ourselves every day. They help keep us on top of our game.

The friendly competition brings out the best in everyone. It is always good to have others to seek council in.

Having others around who compliment our skill set enhances our outreach.

Lastly we have those who are just beginning to find their feet. We have taken them under our wing like our elders did to us.

The cycle repeats itself. Continually moving up the carousel producing men of talent.

We need to seek sanity to survive in a suffocating world.

How to Ask for Help with Anything: The Producer Mindset

 

The consumer mindset

There is a right way and a wrong way for how to ask for help with anything.

When asking for help most people are in the wrong mindset.

They first think “What can this person give me?”

This is entirely the wrong way to go about it.

Instead they should be saying “What can I do for this person?”

When you alter your speech from one of a consumer to one of a producer your thoughts change along with it.

Check out Ed Latimore’s tweet on the subject.

You go from being a problem causer to a problem solver.

Whoever you are interacting with will now see you as an asset. You will no longer a burden.

When you offer to help people the law of reciprocity is set into play.

That is what you see in business every day.

Websites will offer tons of free content before they ever make a dime.

Their audience recognises this and are more than willing to return the favour.

You need to provide value first.

Then you can begin to take control of your life.

Entering into every interaction to provide value will set you up for success in all walks of life.

It is a great way of sorting out the time wasters from the go-getters.

Those who have something to offer will offer it.

Those who don’t will not.

Be wary though.

Help comes in all shapes and sizes.

To some it can be as little as a couple of words.

From the right person those few words can provide enormous value.

What took someone a split second to tell you may have taken them ten years to discover.

Just like that you have been passed down great wisdom.

 

How to ask for help with anything

How to ask for help with anything in life? Don’t be afraid.

To not be afraid you must be honest.

You have to be confident and sure of the value you provide.

When you have no doubts then even if you get turned away all is not lost.

It isn’t the end of the world because you know your own capabilities.

Your room for improvement is infinite.

One rejection will not stop a man who is confident.

Confidence breeds success. 

Those who are willing to help will see someone who is perfecting their trade.

They will be much more inclined to lend a hand when you are standing on your own two feet.

Asking for help shouldn’t be begging.

Doing so will turn people away and they may never come back.

You may get pity help but that won’t last long. If you are not willing to adapt quickly then you may get left behind. 

How to ask for help with anything comes to down to becoming a producer and throwing out the consumer mindset.

Constantly be providing value to others and only ask for help when you need it. 

That is how success is made. 

 

 

 

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By | 2017-08-05T12:34:22+00:00 August 4th, 2017|Life|7 Comments

7 Comments

  1. asmithxu August 5, 2017 at 3:49 pm - Reply

    This is so true. My last boss helped me out immensely and when I look back at it, I was always trying to think of ways to help him! When two people work together with this sort of mindset, amazing things can happen.

    • Peter August 6, 2017 at 5:15 am - Reply

      Thanks for your comment. Yes it really does work amazingly well when you try and help people first.

  2. Terry August 5, 2017 at 5:23 pm - Reply

    I disagree with several of your comments.
    “Only those who you deem deserving of being helped should be.” Although I agree it is each individuals choice whether to help or not, sometimes the “undeserving” should be helped, not because of who they are but because of who we are!

    “You must look at a persons value and potential. What are they offering you?
    Do they possess something unique which sets them apart?  Are they even trying? “. Sometimes we need to help our fellow man even when we know we will receive nothing in return. I can tell you from experience that if the many people who have helped me in my life had the above attitudes of me having to be deserving of their help and able to offer them something in return, I would never have been able to survive. These are Christian principles of loving your brother as yourself. Think about it.

    Thank you for allowing me to comment. I did like the article even though I disagreed with some of it.

    • Peter August 6, 2017 at 5:23 am - Reply

      Thanks for commenting Terry. I should remind you that this was a post on how to ask for help with anything. Helping the unfortunate is a slightly different matter and contains different rules.

      As I mentioned as well help can come in all shapes in sizes. It all comes down to personal capabilities. If you had nothing to offer then even the slightest bit of gratitude is enough if that is all you have. For example saying thank you or please. Sure some people may help you continually without expecting anything in return. But eventually if that continues for too long they will go to someone who is showing signs of progress. We can only give so much for so long. It would be immoral to pile all your resources into one person who is showing no signs of progress and neglecting others who hace the potential to get better.

      Of course empathy is important but you can’t expect it to continue forever.

  3. Owain August 6, 2017 at 10:05 am - Reply

    A very interesting and thoughtful post. I too have the mindset for helping people. I have this at work and when I do this I don’t necessarily want anything in return. But I know later down the road that if I need help then my ‘favor’ is returned.

    I have found that if you are kind and helpful to others then this will be given back to you. And so work will be more enjoyable.

    • Peter August 6, 2017 at 12:10 pm - Reply

      Thank you Owain. Yes you are exactly right. It is the only way to approach interactions. If you are good to others then they will be good back to you back.If they are not good back then at least you know where you stand with them.

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